Are You a Dictator?

Do you have a dictator in your life?  Unfortunately, many of us have someone in our life who is a dictator and, typically, people tend to experience a dictator at work.

Sadly, managers can mistake a dictatorship mentality as a way of leadership.  If a manager does choose the path of a dictator, they may see results in their production numbers, and produce short-term success, but is it worth it?

  • Dictators are demanding:  Though this is also true of great leaders, dictators continuously demand and do not take the time to give true praise and coaching to their team members.  Over time, this causes great people to leave a workplace and will only demoralize those who choose to stay in the toxic environment.
  • Dictators are deaf: Because dictators are selfish instead of selfless, they are deaf to anything they are against.  They choose not to listen to coaching and do not listen to their staff when they come with true concerns.  It is only under extreme circumstances, like a divorce or being fired from a job, that dictators MIGHT listen to someone.
  • Dictators bully people:  It can be as simple as yelling at people and as mean as telling offensive jokes about the people around them, but dictators are definitely bullies.  Dictators see yelling as communicating and find their jokes extremely funny.  The truth is dictators bully others because they are insecure and suffer from low self-confidence.

Sometimes we are forced to work with a dictator.  You may have someone at work that is not your manager, but you are assigned to work with them on a project.  You cannot effectively complete the project by being a dictator back to a dictator.  Just remember the two old clichés: two wrongs don’t make a right and you cannot fight fire with fire.  The best you can do is stay positive and keep the lines of communication open.  This is easier said than done, but it does pay off in the long run.

Fortunately, I can say that I do not report to a dictator in my current position.  Both the CEO and President may not always agree with me, but they do listen to my ideas and push me to be a better person.  The same goes with my life at home.  My wife is by no means a dictator and she is very supportive.  I am truly blessed and hope those that read this are as well.

Have you experienced a dictator in your life?  How have you handled it?

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About Jeremy M. Price
For twelve years, I had the pleasure of working in community banking. Starting in customer service, I worked my way up to a senior level marketing and human resources director. It was great leading teams that improved strategic initiatives including, but not limited to brand awareness, digital communication, employee development and product development. This experience has now led to an exciting role with CRS Data. As the Product Marketing Analyst, I am currently reviewing the company's banker suite product. This product is able to help community banks reach their fullest potential in real estate lending. I am extremely fortunate to share time with my son while enjoying life in East Tennessee. The two of us enjoy the views of the Smokey Mountains, eating good food and having fun. During my free time, I enjoy running races, traveling and listening to great live music.

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